Eva Vega, More Connected Humans™️
“Caminante, no hay puentes, se hace puentes al andar.”
(Traveler, there are no bridges, you make them as you walk.)
— Gloria Anzaldúa
There’s a moment after any big change — graduation, a job shift, the end of a relationship, the beginning of something uncertain where you feel yourself floating between two lives. The one you’ve just lived. And the one that hasn’t yet begun.
You might be surrounded by people cheering you on. You might even be proud of yourself. But inside, there’s a pause. A tremble. A question.
Now what?
It’s easy to feel like you should already know the answer. To believe that because the last chapter had structure curriculum, deadlines, a title, a relationship and this new one should too. That the road ahead should be clear and smooth. But often, it’s not.
Often, it’s foggy.
Often, it’s quiet.
Often, there’s nothing but space.
This is the part where people get scared.
Where they wonder if they made a mistake.
Where they try to go back to what’s familiar, even if it wasn’t working.
Where they look around, hoping someone will hand them a map.
But here’s the truth no one says loud enough:
The map doesn’t come first.
The road comes from walking.
Building the bridge or building the road isn’t about controlling every outcome. It’s not about having a 10-point plan or knowing exactly who you’ll be in five years. It’s about practicing trust in motion. It’s about naming what matters to you like freedom, wholeness, peace, creativity and making choices that align with that, even when the future is still taking shape.
Sometimes building the bridge looks like:
• Saying yes to something small but deeply aligned
• Calling someone who helps you feel like yourself
• Letting go of a role or identity that no longer fits
• Giving yourself permission to rest instead of rush
Other times, it looks like:
• Speaking up when you’re scared
• Creating a new ritual to hold your mornings
• Feeling lost, but refusing to abandon yourself
• Trusting your feet even when you can’t see the whole path
We build the road not with certainty, but with presence.
Not with perfection, but with courage.
Not all at once, but in rhythm with our own unfolding.
You are not behind.
You are not lost.
You are becoming.
And becoming is not a detour. It’s the work.
So take the next step, however small. Breathe into the unknown. Let your questions walk beside you. The path will meet you as you go. And one day, you’ll look back and see the bridge you made which is stronger, wiser, and full of the texture of your own becoming.
That’s liberation, too.
